[TRANSCRIPTION: “Ok I know I need to stop saying Ma’am and Sir to customers at work, it’s bad to assume other people’s gender, but I can’t help it it’s how I was raised. My mother was Southern and my father was a Bottom. Something about it always confuses the customers anyway, it could be the whole ..everything about me, but every time I say “Here you go ma’am here’s your change.” All I get is “Oh, thank you?” (the “you” trails off and ends in confusion.)
Suddenly our little game of social volleyball has turned into three dimensional gender chess and I’m eating all the pieces. I’ve got her fucking money in my hand so she knows that the only way she’s getting it back is if she solves my queer little fairy riddle and I’m not giving her any fucking clues.
Now all of a sudden this Karen is studying me with the intensity of a crime scene investigator. She’s stuck in her Sherlock Holmes mind palace trying to figure out if These are tits or just mosquito bites. Or if I’m a woman or just one of those femboys her kids keep showing around the Tik-Tok.
In the past sixty seconds my customer has thought more about men, women, and the terrifying pit where I lie in between than she ever has in her entire life beforehand. She is stuck in my transgender genjutsu.
Now the customer is always Wrong, because even if her little game of pronoun roulette happens to land in her favour she still stood there for a fucking minute mouth agape, fully admitting that whatever I’ve got going on beneath my jeans is Far beyond her comprehension.
If I’m going to be stuck in this capitalist nightmare for all eternity then every unsuspecting mother who comes in to buy a Roblox card is going to have to suffer through a gender identity crisis with me. /END ID]
why is “report hate speech” not one of the default options with “report spam” instead of “report sexually explicit material”. i’m not a cop so i don’t care if people post hole & pole but i would love if i didn’t have to explain every time why it’s bad when there are nazis
As a chronic people-pleaser, this is my advice for success.
Offer as little as possible. Be terse. Get rid of all those exclamation marks and tidbits about why you want to take a sick day. State your needs clearly and concisely without reason. Start saying “No, I’m unable.” more often. Say Thank You only when the other party deserves it.
I think that if you want relationships depicted in your fiction – whether primary media or fan-work – to be emotionally compelling, there’s really no getting around the fact that one of the most compelling relationship dynamics in fiction is “hey, wouldn’t it be fucked up if”.
And I don’t just mean “one of them is clearly taking advantage of the other” type relationships, either. There’s a whole spectrum of upfuckery to explore, including (but not limited to):
Each of them thinks they can fix the other, but really they’re just enabling each other’s worst impulses
Sticking together no matter what because no matter how bad they are for each other, the terror of the unknown is worse
You’re pretty sure staying in this relationship constitutes a form of wilful self-harm; for whom is genuinely unclear
They actually just straight up hate each other, but each regards the other as the only one who Gets It
They’re perfectly happy together, but the way they play off of each other is harmful to literally everyone around them
So I think a lot of us are struggling with being an online artist these days, with the navigation of various socials being increasingly obscure and even perilous at times
It’s why I had an idea: The Online Artist Handbook
What is the Online Artist Handbook ?
It’s a collaborative google doc where all artists all over various social media websites can contribute their knowledge of said socials to help everyone thrive ! This includes becoming more familiar with various customs and ways to post as a part of building your online presence, and things to watch out for.
The document is completely free and open-source: everyone can use it, edit it, cite it, download it, whatever !
How does it work ?
There are two documents: one document is used for submitting notes about various social media platforms, and a second one is a read-only document where all the information is properly written out to ensure clarity and ease of reading.
I’d like to contribute !
That’s so awesome ! Thank you so much ! You can contribute to the document yourself here: [Google doc link]. The clean version of the document can be found here: [Google doc second link]
Remember to add yourself to the contributors section to be credited for your help !
Let’s go Tumblr ! Let’s create a community artist resource !
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